Do You Know What Makes People Happy?

There is an ongoing Harvard study of happiness that’s lasted 75 years. It began with a large  L4Wlb9tyKiTrlHdSwhdf_Tp6tM0vKTP43DjgTy2uh1Mgroup of men, and after many years, the study expanded to include women. When young people are asked what they believe would make them happy, some responses are fame, fortune, prestige. Are you surprised? I may have answered that way before much life experience. The Harvard study tells us, after years of studying the subject of happiness, the main ingredient is good relationships.

“We’ve learned…that social connections are really good for us, and that loneliness kills. It turns out that people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community, are happier, they’re physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected,” says Robert Waldinger of the Harvard study on happiness.

Maybe that’s not a surprise to you, but to see it substantiated in a Harvard study…well, a new day has arrived!

Then of course, the question becomes, how can I have better relationships? The relationship with yourself is a good place to start. When you know yourself, love yourself unconditionally, then you’re bound to see that goodwill reflected back to you in relationships. What do you have without self love? Its the basis and motivation for living, growing, improving one’s life. How could you expect others to love and accept you if you don’t love and accept yourself?

More can be found on this Ted talk by Robert Waldinger, available in video and also transcript.